This is not a thread for arguing beliefs, I know that, but since so many has posted beliefs like: "Expect nothing" "The less you hope for, the less you suffer" and that type of thing I wish to point out a different point of view. Coming from a "LIFE SUCKS" angle, these views are great indeed because they will let life screw with you and you're still unaffected by it. But for instance:
Case of the buddhist was brought up. While they have a lot of sound beliefs, simply being a buddhist does not mean being superior, since frankly, the average hardcore buddhist will accomplish nothing in his life. Death is his purpose, and he prepares for that rather than enjoying life.
Then we have the case of "The less you hope for...". Hope builds dreams. Dreams let's you set goals you can work towards to accomplish what you want in life. WHAT IS ESSENTIAL THOUGH, is to NOT make your happiness dependant on those dreams, because even if you reach those goals, they will not be enough to make you happy in themselves. Happiness must come from you by accepting what, and who you are and the situation you're in. The only way out of a shitty situation is to accept it and work with it. In a accident, most people freeze up being totally useless. Do they accept the situation or fight it?
"The less you hope for..."
There are people who are more like a force of nature, than men. The main differance is they don't hope, they know. They simply know, thus other will BELIVE in them, and all the way they're happy still, because they will reach their dreams one way or another. It might take time, it might take setbacks, it does not matter, since they know.
Saying "don't hope" is like taking a step back for me, while saying "KNOW it will happen" is like taking a step forwards. One makes you a satisfied victim and another let's you take control of your life.
Also, "Don't hope" kinda says you expect life to be a bitch, and "Know" says life will be what *you* decide it to be. This need not be the case of course, but often life becomes what you believe it will become. Light joyful people will attract other light joyful people. Pissed off people is even more pissed off when they can be so together. And having what you want is NOT a prerequisite (I can't believe this word is spelled right) for being happy. Generally, we in the western world are more unhappy than those that have *nothing*.
EDIT: Ya, everything I do is in accordance with my dreams and goals: Check these out, my mindmaps, I look at them every day:




And while doing so, you have to listen to this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JpJjsHgYHA or you will clogg my personal shakras with negative energy.