Meaning of life

[Sparrisen]

You probably could guess the topic starters name, just by looking at its name.

Thing is, I'm considering getting a GF. And his totally fucks up, what had become, without me realizing it, the one, top one, meaning of my life. Which is to pick up girls.

This is number one. EMOTIONALLY this preceeds EVERYTHING else. Becoming a doctor in medicine is nothing in comparison. The fire you make yourself walk through sometimes while picking up, is both more TERRIBLE and AWSOME than my medicine books could ever become. A chick can make your ego DIE horribly, you can make yourself a fool SO MUCH, that it probably feels, in the moment, more emotionally engaging than should one of my patients DIE. 

I have adopted religios beliefs to make me more consistent and centered. I have read through books, seen movies, picked up attractive personality traits from other people, developed a kickass personal dressing style, EVERYTHING I've done for about two years, points towards one thing. And that is Women.
During this process, I have taught other people how to pick up girls, I have pushed them beyond their limit, seen broken men start to shine, and the pride I've felt doing this was unmatched.
And now I've arrived at the point where I'm done with making out, making girls feel attracted, and I'm at the point where I really need to work at the actual SEX. And my brain went: "I need a girlfriend", because, that's, well, a good way to stay sexed up while you have spend most of your free time learning 2 zillions of latin words for bones, muscles and stuff.

When I started to think of the rammifications of getting a GF I was horrified. It is extremely unlikey that I will find a girl that agrees to me snooping around, making out with a stranger round the corner, which means, basically, that continued seduction is out of the question from the point where we get a serious relationship. And I was like: "If I can't pickup... What's left?"

I seriously felt like I just exhaled my last breath of life at the thought. The AWSOMENESS of picking up, the EXHILERATION, the pure amount ot EFFORT of MOLDING yourself to your BEST self, how could anything else compare? Ever? I don't watch television no more. I don't see movies not related to seduction. I don't read books that does not concern self development or medicine. If I would read, for example, a standard fantasy book, it feels like I'm wasting my time. My brain would go: "How will this help me?"
Generally I don't just "have fun" anymore. I have fun to create the party, and when you have the party in the club, it's easy to invite any girl in. Anyone wants to be at the warm end of the pool. I have fun, to pickup. I don't drink, generally, because it impair my judgement and dulls my edge.

And when I look at that, FUCK, doesn't that look hollow to you? EXTREMELY shallow? Like... Bullshit? I can't have *fun* anymore? Like, without a reason? Picking up girls friggin gets me out of the bed in the morning, even if the bed I'm in actually contains a girl! When I'm on a date, I'm STILL on the lookout for hot girls.
And a girl is a perfect judge. You will know, just when you fucked up. You will know, when the fire died. It's so addictve, you get INSTANT feedback. Next.

So, the whole point of this, is, that I think this is rather fucked up. When I realized, it actually makes me FEEL bad, for instance, playing a game (wasting my time), just for fun, I was like. Dude. Maby something's missing here.

My question is: Meaning of life. What is it? What get's YOU up in the morning? What motivates YOU? Because, if this one have to go, my one motivator, I don't quite know what I will fill that space with.
 

[Hullu]

Uhm... Maybe I just wanna breathe.

[Nightmare]

I don't even pretend to have understood anything, but in the odd case I got this correct anyways...

If the thing that motivates you to get up every day is to pick up girls, then maybe you shouldn't stop that? I mean why should you, do you somehow feel obliged to get a girlfriend? Maybe you're just not ready to settle down yet? I know I'm not, and you're younger than me so what's the rush?

And yeah, the answer to the meaning of life is 42 ofc (read some fantasy once in a while, all those "serious" books will just fuck your brains).

[emrys711]

I personally have a difficult time finding things that really motivate me, that give me a rush.  I think, Sparrisen, that you are lucky to have such a thing, and I agree with Nightmare that it might be a shame to lose that.

I think you should start by asking around at school if there are any attractive girls who are addicted to picking up guys, and start a relationship with her.  That way when you have a test coming up you can sleep with each other, and when there's not much homework you can go to the club no problem.

If that doesn't work, you'll have to at least try to find a girlfriend who doesn't mind you picking up other girls.  This behavior is known as polygamy and is generally frowned upon in most societies, but if you explain your extenuating circumstances, maybe people will understand.  As you have stated, this scenario is extremely unlikely.

After that, your best option is probably just to skip the girlfriend for now and stick with what you know best.  Latin names, Dawnspire, and Sparrisen Pick Up Mode.  Would you trade that which gets you out of bed for someone to keep you company while you're stuck there?  I wouldn't.

But either way we support you.

[Sparrisen]

this is really friggin good advice

[Faro]

OK, how about this solution, just a thought and I'm not sure it would fit your personality. it requires a fairly ruthless attitude.
Go find yourself a totally average girl that would be so thankfull to be with you that she is ready to forgive your occasional extra-relationship conquests. This way you can practice becoming a great lover with the one girl and maintain your edge at picking up others.

[Myrmox]

Chronological record of the Motivators of Myrmox:

0-5yrs: Candy
5-12yrs: Videogames
12-20yrs: Girls (you are here)
20-28yrs: Aspiring to make it into the historybooks as a brilliant scientist and surgeon
28yrs and counting: Kids

My tip: Getting a GF wouldn´t benefit you nor the girl in question. Thus: Keep dating/flirting until your thirst for affirmation has been thoroughly quenched and THEN get a GF.

Though I am far less old and experienced, I am compelled to question the wisdom of our venerable Faro. I have yet to see such an "open relationship" end without both partners regretting they even tried it.

[Hullu]

Candy, videogames, girls, HISTORYBOOKS? What went wrong in your 20. year?

[Myrmox]

"Ambitionen var ett långsamt gift.
Du höll ut länge men du föll till sist."

Delusions of grandure seems to be a normal phase in the development of young men´s minds. It will get you too, eventually.

[Hullu]

NO! I'll get my candy, you'll see... You'll see...

[ReverendLostLamb]

[Hullu]

Reverend goes the wrong way.

0-5yrs: Kids
5-12yrs: Historybooks
12-20yrs: Sparrboobs
20-28yrs: Videogames
28yrs and counting: Candy

[Sparrisen]

Guys, I love you^^

[Hullu]

I love Smiskfisk!

[Persus]

Chronological record of the Motivators of Myrmox:

0-5yrs: Candy
5-12yrs: Videogames
12-20yrs: Girls (you are here)
20-28yrs: Aspiring to make it into the historybooks as a brilliant scientist and surgeon
28yrs and counting: Kids

Girls 12 - 20 yrs. 12 what were you a tiny little giggalo trying to pick up his teachers.

From an Ancients point of view I would say play the field one relationship at a time and see were each takes you. Open relationships never work believe me. Don't be in any rush to get married or have kids. You have plenty of time for that in your late 20s and 30s. Most of all respect women even if you only want sex cause Karma will bite you in the ass otherwise.